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Costly Prayers

Trey Rogers

Bittersweet news about our adoption.

There is a concept widely accepted and repeated in the adoption community, “Best case scenario for the baby is to stay with their biological family”. Now of course there are exceptions when abuse or harm is involved, but overarching this statement is held as truth.

When we met our birth mom, not even 2 weeks ago, we were so filled with anticipation and amazement. We learned about different aspects of her family life and history and this gave us fuel for prayers for her and the baby she was carrying. Our prayers centered around her health, his future well being and overall that she would feel cared for.

As we were getting ready for an ultrasound scheduled for Monday we began to feel her pull away, cutting off communication. This drastic change in behavior was confusing to us, but we wanted to give her space. As we got to the weekend and had not heard back from her it was becoming clear that she wanting some space. When we did get in touch she let us know she had cancelled the ultrasound and “was figuring things out for herself”.

Our prayers then shifted; God, help her know what to do. Give her strength. Bring restoration to her life, so she can flourish and be a mom. We give up our rights to bring her baby home. I trust you, Lord, that your will be done.

 In response to those prayers, on Monday we received some bittersweet news. She had her beautiful, healthy son, over the weekend and was moving back with family up North to parent him there. This was a shock to us, but when we began to process more, we realized God had moved and our prayers were heard.

Our hearts were initially very heavy, but this story is not a story of grief, it is a story of redemption. This is a story about a mother and son who will be together and not torn apart by any life circumstance. It’s a story about a boy who will get to know his rather large biological family and never wonder what they are like, because he has touched and heard and witnesses them first hand.

And this is our story, that God brought this woman and her child into our lives, for nothing else perhaps, than to pray for them. Our prayers were costly, they didn’t revolve around the outcome we had hopeful expectation for. But God’s name has been glorified through this up and down journey, and that is a satisfaction nothing else in this world can bring.

God has another baby for us. We don’t know when or who or how. We stand firm in this though because we trust not in man, but in the power and might of the Lord.

Thank you to everyone for the outpouring of support you have extended to us. We felt an update was important because you are on this journey with us.

Don’t let this story scare you, don’t let it make you timid or believe that adoption is emotionally too difficult. It is hard, but most of life’s greatest victories come from sacrifice and perseverance and of course, a lot of costly prayers. 

As always we will keep you update as we continue to move forward.

Blessings,

We've been matched!!

Trey Rogers

Yep... You read that subject line right, we've been matched with a birth mom!

You know how you have one of those days, when you wake up and think its going to be just another normal day, and then something life changing happens? That was us last Wednesday. 

I was leaving the girls preschool when I saw an email from our attorney's office. It read, "Mom due May 4 with boy. Are you interested?" My heart started beating like a crazy persons and I replied back, "YES! How do we proceed?" The next day our profile book was shown to her. We waited for what seemed like an eternity to hear back about the meeting and by 6pm we received the news that she wanted us! When she looked at our profile book she said she loved how happy the girls looked and she really loved their names. She said that we look like her kind of people. 

We wanted to meet her as soon as possible and we're able to go down on Monday about 2 hours from Orlando and meet up with her, and our birth mom liaison. She is very sweet and thoughtful and honestly wants to do what's best for her baby. We have prayed so many prayers about the health and well being of Teddy, but to see now the tangible faithfulness of God is so humbling and faith building. 

Those couple of days last week were such a whirlwind that its a little jarring now to be in the waiting game. She is 35 weeks pregnant this coming Monday and could deliver early, but if not we will be seeing our boy in May. Not too long of a wait at all, but somehow still feels like way too long. I have been seeing a lot of quotes and verses about waiting in the last week. Its funny how before we were matched I was ok and even used to the waiting aspect. But now that we have a name and face to our dream of adoption, the seconds are almost palpable. 

This quote I read the other day has stuck with me,"Waiting often feels helpless, but God does his best work in our weakness" Jade Mazarin

I couldn't agree more. This whole road towards adoption has been God working out of our weakness. We have not been capable of producing Teddy in our strength, but God has known who he would be and how he would enter our family. Our only job is to do the POSSIBLE, while God does the IMPOSSIBLE.

Along with hearing all this wonderful news we also have a HUGE HUGE HUGE praise report when it comes to our fundraising!!!! WE HAVE ALMOST ALL OUR MONEY! 

Because of the generosity of so many we have almost met our goal. WE ONLY NEED $3,000 left!!! It has been amazing to see the faithfulness of God as we step out and trust Him. Thank you so much to all that have given. 

We have specific prayers and needs that we would love you to partner with us in:

1. Keep our birth mom safe and in some kind of caring community in her last few weeks of pregnancy.

2. Help us as a family make our home baby ready, both physically and emotionally.

3. Keep Teddy safe and growing strong. Pray for no complications and full health upon delivery.

4. Bless our relationship with our birth mom and give us sensitivity to the hard place she is in her life.

5. If you feel led to help us with the last bit of the money we need you can give HERE! 

Thank you so much to everyone who has followed our journey and we would love to chat with anyone who feels like they may be interested in adoption. We don't know much in comparison to others, but any insight we have we would love to pass along. If its on your heart don't dismiss it, God may be leading you and if he does, then he will make the way.

We will keep you updated as things progress!

Blessings,

Rogers Family of soon to be 5!

 

Adoption, yard sales, & puzzle pieces...

Trey Rogers

When I look at this puzzle I feel like it sums up a lot of where we were a few months ago in our adoption journey. A lot of pieces fitted together and A LOT that still needed to be put in place.

Last October our adoption journey suddenly changed. We had our story figured out. We would be with our agency and put our profile into the pot to be shown to birth parents and just wait. They said because we were so open there was a strong possibility we would match fast. Our hearts were ready to start our family of 5 with Teddy.

And then life happened. And our agency went under, closed its doors and we were left with a profile book and mixture of hope and sadness.

We have had time now to grieve, reassess, and keep moving forward. Two goals were at the top of our list: 1. Find a new agency or attorney to place with. 2. Fundraise

Both of these things take a tremendous amount of due diligence, perseverance and hopeful expectation. But, thankfully we were not alone in all this. Friends in the area helped us find an attorney’s office out of Tampa to work with and our profile book once again is being viewed by potential birth moms.

The fundraising has gone amazing as well. We put on a yard sale with donations from over 35 families in the area and made $8,000! One story that will forever be in our minds and we will surely share with Teddy over and over is about a couple named John and Terri. John came by the first day of the sale and dropped $100 into our donation jar and said “God told me to give this to you”, and then he walked away. We were blown away by his kindness and obedience and thought we would never see him again. Then the following day he returned with his wife and asked to speak to us. He said that every year they save up some money to bless someone with at Christmas time. This past year they didn’t feel like God led them to anyone so they’ve just been waiting.  When he had passed by the day before he knew God said to give towards our adoption. He proceeded to hand us an envelope with $2,500 in it. We couldn’t believe it! It was such a testimony to God’s love and care for us.

From the beginning of our adoption we have been surrounded by support and after our agency was no longer an option even more we felt the love, not simply for Trey and I and the girls, but Teddy. I cant wait to tell Teddy someday how he was a miracle to us and that he was loved and valued before anyone even had an idea of who he would be created to be. 

So, we have still have a couple of fundraisers we will be working on and we wanted to share them with you!

We created this puzzle for a fundraiser idea. I, for some reason, loved the concept more than any of the other fundraisers out there. The idea of people giving to put a piece of the puzzle together for our family will be a gift to Teddy and speak volumes to how treasured he is.

So, here are the details:

- Each donation will be one piece, we don’t care how large or small it might be, we just want Teddy to know you were excited for his place in our family.

- When you donate your name will be written on the back of the puzzle piece and we will have it displayed in our home when Teddy arrives.

If you are interested in putting a piece of the puzzle in then donate HERE. We have a new donation website that will give tax deductible receipts!

If you have already donated through our gofundme or to us directly you already have a piece with your name on it! Thank you to everyone who has kept up with our journey, we look forward to sharing more in the future.

Lizzie